Dear Abby...Will I ever feel like I’m enough?

As humans, we spend countless hours of our lives (whole decades I would imagine!) contemplating, speculating, wondering and waiting for the time when we will finally feel like we are enough. For the day when we will wake up and FULLY embrace who we are and what we have to offer this world.

What if today, my lovely readers, was that very day? What if today you put a pause on the internal monologue, or you pressed eject on the no-longer-serving-you narrative that berates, judges and beats you to a bloody pulp? What if today you decided that you are exactly where you are supposed to be in this moment and doing exactly what you are supposed to be doing…and for today, that was and is enough?

You. Are. Enough.

Consider it. Play with the idea. Let it roll around in your head for a little while.

Cause here’s the thing, sweet one: the truth is, you are. And the truth is, if you allow your overly analytical, judgmental, comparing and not-always-kind mind to keep running it’s silly stories, you will miss out on being Here Now and the great gifts you have to offer this world, in this very moment. Slowly detach from the ego and this insane idea of who you—or your egoic mind—thinks you should be.

Fuck that shit. Yep, that’s what I just said: Fuck. That. Shit.

Celebrate your enoughness. Let the beauty of this belief wash over you. Notice the sense of joy that it brings. Notice how when you shift your perspective to a space of abundance, you experience more abundance. It begins with giving yourself space and permission to be who you are right now without any added frills, thrills or expectations. Breathe that in.

If you need some extra inspiration and insight on how to love on yourself—wholly, truly, to the nines—I recommend any or all of the following reads:

The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

You Are A Bad Ass by Jen Sincero

Polishing the Mirror by Ram Dass

Comfortable with Uncertainty by Pema Chodron

May Cause Miracles by Gabby Bernstein

Real Love : The Mindful Art of Connection by Sharon Salzberg

Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach

Here’s my honest and humbling truth: I have read these books. Quite a few of them twice. And still, at times, I have to battle that part of my mind that wanders off into dark places and basically tells me that I suck. Sorry for being an imperfect human? I would be doing you a disservice to pretend otherwise. Life is gonna be messy sometimes! The benefits of doing this work is that your “return time,” what I define as the time it takes to get you out of a shit spiral and back to a place of compassionate presence, begins to decrease. It becomes a practice of noticing that you’re in an “I suck” space and returning to an “I am worthy and enough” space with added ease and grace.

And remember: The darkness is as much a part of our beauty as the light. We don’t have to shun it or shame ourselves—we can learn (see books above) more compassionate and welcoming ways to relate to every part of ourselves, even the ones we think we don’t like very much.

Now go get ‘em, tiger. You and all your wild and wonderful ENOUGHNESS.